It’s almost Valentines Day and I’ve noticed the usual overpriced flower bouquets and crappy heart-shaped chocolates infiltrating society. Some might say I’m cynical, but I’m not a huge fan of marketing holidays. I grew up with a mum that asked only for cuddles on Mother’s day. My siblings and I were rarely given easter eggs. While our Christmas presents were usually traded in for overseas holidays with my amazing Mum.
Maybe it’s my transition to being a minimalist (or half a minimalist) that has made me lose appreciation for most material things. Or maybe it’s the fact that I’m a bit of a cheapskate and can’t see the point of spending $50 on flowers. Suffice to say, I think Valentine’s Day is kind of stupid. Although, those of you thinking “she’s just never been in love,” would be correct, hehe.
Feelings of animosity aside, I’ve done some reflecting since last Valentine’s day. It made me realise just how far I’ve come on the self-love front over the last two years. It’s also made me smile to think of the feelings of confidence, strength and self-worth that have resulted from this difficult and ongoing process. I mean, the tagline of this entire blog and operation is “love yourself first.”
So this week I thought I’d jump on the “letter to my younger self” bandwagon and put my realisations on paper (or rather the internet). I started this blog because I feel women are often expected to put self-love and care behind their love and compassion for everyone else. In my opinion, it’s just not right. So I’ve written this letter to my 15-year-old self to tell her the things I wish she’d known about loving herself first.
I can’t begin to describe how different your life will be in a few years time. At the moment, you’re suffering through teenage problems that seem never ending and all consuming, but I promise it gets better. You get better.
The best part is, nothing turns out the way you’d planned. In just a few short years, you’ll be taking a completely different path to one you had dreamed of and each step will fill you with happiness.
You’ll be happy to know that you will come to respect, admire and love your body like it deserves. You finally realise diets are bullsh**t and find a holistic path to health. After completely changing your life, you’ll be motivated to help others do the same. And you still have dreams that are nestled in the sky.
Most of all, the sinking realisation that you are different to everyone else will become something you love.
You’ll learn just how many of your friends and family also face mental health struggles, and that you truly aren’t alone or abnormal. You’ll learn to focus less on numbers and more on personal growth. Oh, and you’ll also be relieved to learn that you eventually stop trying to please everybody.
You’ll find people who inspire you and lift you up, but you’ll also learn how to do that for yourself. You’ll become comfortable and even thrive on your own. But most importantly, you’ll learn that it’s you that holds the key to your own happiness.
Although you’ve never felt financial security, you’ll soon learn that things don’t have much of an impact of your life – at least not in any real way. Rather, you’ll find that experiences, learning, empathy and helping others have the ability to change you to your core.
Just relax. Anxiety is much more common than you think. You are far from alone. But better health will impact this more than any therapist or medication ever did. You’ll also turn into a pretty serious feminist and activist, but I think you saw that one coming.
Things will fall into place. But also know that your chances of being lucky drastically increase with hard work. You won’t be handed anything. All the things you’re proud of today have come from hard work and hustling.
Take steps towards your grand vision every single day and it’ll become a reality. Be kind. Listen to where the universe is telling you to go.
But most importantly, always do your part to make this world a better place.
Just love yourself first and everything will fall into place,
Let’s chat below! If you could tell your teenage self one thing, what would it be?